I haven't blogged about depression in quite a while because I haven't heard anyone say something so blatantly ignorant that I had to vent somewhere or melt a hole in the back of their head with my laser-eyes. But I do frequently run into people who don't know Jack, Shit, or their bouncing son Jack Shit when it comes to psychology, medication, the history of mental health in America, or what ANY of the mental disorders actually entail.
Depression is known as the Common Cold by psychologists - cuz it's common, duh! And like the common cold, it's unlikely to kill you but that doesn't mean it can't suck and make your life very hard to live. Depression can range from having the joy of life sucked out of you to being completely unable to rise from bed because death and/or unconsciousness seems preferable to anything else. Your brain tells you that life isn't worth living and it's very, very hard to argue with your brain. Low grade depression can be overcome with willpower and a little cognitive reframing (which is just fancy talk for "thinking positively and not bitching yourself into a bad mood). But more severe forms of depression are like waking up to a burly man who punches you in the crotch and then asks "Feel like getting up?" and if you answer "yes" he punches you again and then bites you on the butt. You'd be creeped out but you're past of the point of giving a damn about anything.
That's depression - sound like a minor thing? I can't tell you how many people I've run into who've said something like "Well, they should just snap out of it." When I hear that I want to punch them in the stomach and as they lie winded on the floor yell "GET OVER, BITCH!" Overreaction much? Yeah...but good people get shit on when they're already down and out and that makes me very, very angry. As someone who has suffered from depression for my entire life (I'm "lucky" enough to have bad brain chemistry) I can tell you from experience that having someone who loves you when you're depressed is the best medicine available. It makes all the difference.
Because depression wants you to think you're alone. Depression lies to you and says nobody gives a shit and nothing can possibly change. There is no hope - so just kill yourself. It will twist the facts and try to make you forget any person or event that goes against the idea that you're alone and life is an endless road of miseries. That one loving person can be the difference between life or death.
But they're not always enough. With the hardcore depressions you're past the point of reality testing and will filter out the positive. Your brain is trying to kill you! That kind of depression is most often genetic in origin and requires medication and therapy to correct. Medication levels you out so the therapy can work - it introduces some rational thought and level feelings so you can hear an important message.
Your brain is trying to kill you because it's sick. Your brain is a lot like an unfed baby when depression comes around. It's very cranky. But like a baby that's cranky because it's hungry, it's trying to alert you to its needs by crying. For me, it looks like a few things are less than optimal in my brain chemistry but Serotonin is the major culprit. It's an important chemical that regulates mood, your bowel functions (because 90% of it is stored in your guts despite it being a brain chemical...), and it helps your brain do such modest tasks as remain awake and sane.
Can you guess what happens when it isn't being used properly? It makes your moods an enemy, it makes your bowels unhappy with your bowels (which is awkward and painful), and it makes staying awake and thinking straight kind of hard. I went undiagnosed for 22 years and my doctors took a shot in the dark on MY suggestion which finally resolved some of my issues.
I just needed me some bloody pills! Before I go any further, pills aren't always the best option - but for people with a biological imbalance they can be the difference between functional and "where's the nearest bathroom? I need somewhere to crap before I kill myself..." Depression and I were such good friends by my early 20's that I didn't really considered occasionally wanting to kill myself abnormal - I called it Fall, Winter, or Summer. For some reason the Spring didn't kick it in. I got hopped up on "happy pills," which is a misleading name cuz the bloody things have never made me feel happy, because my stomach wasn't treating me with love and kindness.
Now it's time for some education about medication - SO LISTEN UP. There are about a dozen primary antidepressants and each of those has two or three generics based off of them and each has a slightly different chemistry behind them. When your doctor chooses a medication for you, and this is VERY IMPORTANT, he's fucking guessing. He has no way of knowing a) which medication is best for you and b) which dose is proper. That's part of why they start you on a low dose.
The other reason is you might kill yourself. Yeah, "happy pills" have among their common side effects depression, suicide, and going goof-ball nuts. Example! After three days on my first medication I opted for some elective brain surgery which was only not performed because as I reached for the butcher's knife I remembered I had a skull in way of my brain and the air so scalping myself wouldn't provide the make-shift air conditioning I was looking for. After sitting down I realized I'd just about cut my head open to let my brain have a "breather" and I decided I'd better not take my next dose...
Fortunately for me, the next brand we tried worked and I became very, very healthy! It's amazing what having your guts process your food like it's food and not tire rubber does for ones health! You get all "not starving to death" and rosy cheeked! But normally it takes doctors three or four guesses to find a medication that works for people. In my case I'll probably need to always be on meds because I have a medical condition but it's not always necessary for people to continue their mental medication indefinitely.
BUT!!!!!!!!! Make sure if you're going on them you take them as prescribed, take them at a regular time, and NEVER EVER GO COLD TURKEY after being on them. Your body adjusts to the presence of the meds so if you go cold turkey you can a) get very sick, b) go nuts, c) die, or d) prove that God loves you a lot more than the next guy and have nothing bad happen to you. You need to careful ween yourself off of medication or your risk injuring yourself. These pills effect your brain - don't fuck around!
Hopefully this has been informative and educational and can keep you and your loved ones out of harms way. Myths about medication and mental illness are a major reason why easily treatable disorders go unaddressed and hurt the quality of life of otherwise normal people.
And for the record, I've met a lot of "crazy" people who are a great deal more loving, intelligent, and sensitive to the needs of others than "normals." Seeing purple when others see pink doesn't make you evil - it just makes it so you get to dance with the purple clown who crawled out of that smoking OMG DEMON CLOWN RUN!!!
EDIT: because this made me laugh I think my parents may be lying to me about my age... http://www.seanbaby.com/kttg/kttglovestory01.htm
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